Before I begin this post, I should definitely remind you that I am a college student, one who generally goes to bed at midnight/one o’clock on average and one/two o’clock in the summer at least. Going to bed early for me is like…. 11:50! However, after nannying I have come to the conclusion that I might not even see 11:50pm until school starts again. This girl needs here beauty sleep, as well as the energy to keep up with a baby!
Just a couple months ago, I was making fun of my cousins for going to bed so early and how they were so old for doing such a thing! It took me a whole month to realize… wow now I’m turning old!
I thought maybe my youth would keep me going, but let me tell you something you might already know, babies are a lot of work! After a day with Kaden, all I want to do is have a glass of wine maybe some ice cream, and go to bed! And even on the days I don’t watch him, I still need to go to sleep early, otherwise I wont have the energy to keep up with him. Wow, what a sad boring life.
Just kidding!! My life is pretty awesome! I love making all of these memories with Kaden and I wouldn’t trade anything for the hilarious bouts of nonsensical laughter that sometimes happens between Mitch, Megan, and I. So I may be going to bed a tad earlier than normal, but it is definitely worth it. And, when I go back to college I will be all rested up and ready to go back to late nights of… studying.
So, we have already discussed how things don’t always go according to plan. But there might come a time when you really want the baby to do something (like take a nap) and they just are not having it! Let me repeat, things don’t always go according to plan and you cannot negotiate with a baby! Trust me; I have tried to no avail!!
You can rock him, and bounce him. You can sing to him, and rub his back. But if that child does not want to go to sleep, he is NOT going to go to sleep! The worst is when he is obviously tired, with his red eyes and horrible balance. When they get into that fighting age where they have a little more control over how long they can stay awake, there isn’t a dang thing that can get in their way. I mean, I get it… there is so much going on around them that they don’t want to miss anything. However, coming from a college student, I can say it is probably worth missing when there is a nap involved!
As kids we have heard our parents/caregivers tell us that they know what’s best for us even when we don’t. I recall this being said to me a time or two more than I’d like to admit… I couldn’t tell you when I was first told this, but from the amount of times I say this to Kaden, I would say… probably a lot. He does not care whether I think it is the best or not, but somehow the day always seems to go on. He sleeps and wakes up when he wants and the world still turns. He is a baby and that’s what babies do. Let’s be honest, I am a 19 year old girl and I am not going to let someone tell me what to do, at least not with out a fight!
Something that you should know about me is that I have to have a plan. My days are practically planned out to the minute (this is not a joke). I just seem to find security in knowing that everything I am doing is done with a goal and purpose. Let me tell you, plans really mean nothing to a baby! It does not matter how smooth and productive your plan may seem, the baby does not give a care about your perfect itinerary.
It is one thing to think to yourself, “Ok, we’re just going to play for about an hour or so. Then by that point you will be hungry, therefore you will eat and promptly go to sleep for at least 90 minutes. Sounds good? Let’s go!” This may be what is going on in your head but the baby is probably thinking, “who is this crazy lady talking to herself? Hmm that bottle over there looks pretty tasty…. This rubber elephant does not taste like milk!” Although I have no hard proof that this is what Kaden really thinks, I feel pretty confident in my conclusions!
The point is less about how unfollowed my great plans are, and more about how, you simply can’t plan everything. Life is full of crazy, unexpected things that mess up what we think should happen, but just because they aren’t what you expected doesn’t mean they aren’t important and worth while. I didn’t expect that Kaden would be hungry at that time, but after he ate we had a great cuddle moment. That wasn’t in my agenda, but it was a moment I wouldn’t give back.
Don’t get me wrong, I still love to have a plan, and I’ll probably still try to plan out my days and overall life to the minute, but I am becoming more open to the unexpected things in life. This is not really something you can teach a person. One must experience something first hand to truly understand how important the little things in life are. I have definitely not perfected this new acceptance, but it is the first of many life lessons little Kaden is teaching me.
Things don’t always go according to plan… not even your seemingly perfect ones!